S1E14 - Love Languages w/ Bailey and Katrina (Part 1)
In this episode, I have some special guests on with me! If you listened to episode 11, then you’ve already met Katrina. She joins me today along with another one of our best friends, Ms. Bailey! These ladies join me as we talk about our love languages. We guess each other’s love language and reveal what we got on the quiz.
If you’re interested in knowing about the 5 different love languages and figuring out what you are, here’s the link to the quiz: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ Please let me know what you got. Do you agree with the quiz? Why or why not? Katrina's YT Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/katrinalim289
Some parts of the transcript may be edited for better readability, but the content remains the same. Mostly removed duplicate words, vocal filler words, and added/removed some words for clarification.
Hey everyone! This is Meliza. And I'm The Talkative Introvert. We got a fun one for you guys today. And I'm so excited for you guys to listen. I'm joined by two of my bestest friends ever. And it's just such a fun episode that I just can't wait for you guys to listen to it. So, I'm going to keep this intro pretty short and just get right into it. A little room like this for recording.
Yeah, you do. The smaller the room, the better the sound.
Meliza Manalo 00:34
Yeah. Cuz my room is like huge.
It's just a little warm in here.
You should've bought yourself a f*ckin fan! (Laughter)
Meliza Manalo 00:39
But it would be too loud. (Katrina asked if she could cuss) Oh, honestly, I mean, well, it's up to you guys if you care.
I'm gonna try my best not to.
I mean that's what I've been.
Because a lot of people are going to hear it.
Meliza Manalo 00:50
I'm just like, I don't want people to know how much I cuss, like if my boss is to hear this, I just... (Laughter). Hey!
Hey! What's up?
This is Bailey calling from Sacramento, California, and Carson, I'm requesting... (Laughter)
Meliza Manalo 01:16
Are you all really too young to remember' TRL'?
Meliza Manalo 01:19
Yeah, I remember 'TRL'.
I don't remember sh*t. (Laughter)
Do you know what's 'TRL'?
Oh my God.
Meliza Manalo 01:25
Was it 'Today Live'? No.
Total Request Live with Carson Daly!
Mia's like, she was just watching you lips.
Meliza Manalo 01:36
I'm about to start sweating any second.
Yeah, it's pretty hot.
Let's just f*ckin figure this sh*t out. Let's figure this out.
My hands sweat a lot.
Meliza Manalo 01:43
Yeah, it's hot. Okay.
Don't know how long it's gonna last. (Laughter)
Meliza Manalo 01:49
So, is this gonna last an hour though?
Oh, we haven't even started.
Meliza Manalo 01:53
Exactly. That's why I'm like is this evening enough?
Meliza Manalo 01:58
It's so hot. Can we?
I mean yes. What are we gonna put that f*ckin fan? But that'd be way to loud.
Meliza Manalo 02:04
Yeah, it'd be way too loud.
Yeah. Just right there.
Meliza Manalo 02:06
We have a f*ckin engine. (Laughter) We're two minutes and we haven't even done the introduction.
Oh, you're going to make me pee.
Meliza Manalo 02:18
All right. Today I'm joined with my good friend Casey. If you remember, she's from Episode 11. Go check that one out. She has her YouTube channel. I'll link that in description. Hey, Casey!
Hi, guys! If you guys listened to the previous video, my name is not Casey introduced. (Laughter). This is also that Katrina is known as Casey.
Meliza Manalo 02:40
In the previous video?
Meliza Manalo 02:43
It's a podcast.
Oh, Sh*t. Sorry. Oh, Podcast. Sorry.
I said episode.
Meliza Manalo 02:49
Well, it's like a couple of episodes ago.
I thought you said video.
Meliza Manalo 02:53
Yeah, you said video. Few episodes ago, it's actually Katrina Lim. Sorry, my bad. But I call her Casey. Because if you listen to that last podcast, as basic Filipinos go by nickname. But also joining with us today is Bailey! Bailey!
Meliza Manalo 03:12
Hi! (Laughter) What's poppin Bailey?
It's good to be here.
Meliza Manalo 03:20
Oh my God, we've been trying to record, oh God.
What's up, y'all? I'm Bailey. I'm Mia's and Casey's best friend.
Meliza Manalo 03:29
Oh, I go by...
These are my... Oh, you go by Meliza.
Meliza Manalo 03:32
I did mention that though. Yeah. So, that episode is really important to listen to. Oh gosh, sorry.
Meliza Manalo 03:40
Yeah. So, I go by 'Mia' in my family, but my legal name is Meliza. And that's what...Oh my God, I'm sweating.
Do we need to relocate you think? I'm fine. We could find a place.
Meliza Manalo 03:55
It's fine. No, my body will readjust. I'm just gonna sweat for a little bit. I'm gonna take that out though. Or we could keep it in. We're in Bailey's bathroom right now.
Meliza Manalo 04:10
Sink area of the hallway.
Meliza Manalo 04:12
Because it's so loud outside.
Y'all, there is no AC in this little, tiny room.
Meliza Manalo 04:18
I know, why didn't you put a vent? Why is there no vent?
I know, you would think because you're gonna spend some time if you're gonna have this as your glam room.
Okay, wait, what if we open up this door cuz there is a vent in the bathroom.
Meliza Manalo 04:30
And then I'll sit over there?
Meliza Manalo 04:32
Okay, let me stop this real quick. Okay, so coming from Bailey's bathroom.
Yeah, another transition.
Meliza Manalo 04:39
Yeah. Sorry. It's hot. It's Sacramento hot. If you guys know what that means.
98. It's the highest today.
Meliza Manalo 04:46
That's not too bad. At least it's not triple digits.
Meliza Manalo 04:49
Oh my God.
We should still go swimming after this. If you guys want to. I feel like that'd be the perfect way to cool off.
Meliza Manalo 04:55
Sure. But back to the episode. (Laughter) Today we're gonna talk about our love languages.
And this is super exciting because we don't know what each other's Love Language is. I'm so excited to reveal.
Meliza Manalo 05:12
We're gonna reveal it to each other.
I'm kind of nervous.
Oh! I'm excited.
Meliza Manalo 05:14
So, if you guys don't know what that is, there's five love languages. I will link in the description so you could go take the quiz yourselves. But we took the quiz, and we are going to reveal it. Who wants to go first?
We don't even know. You!
Yeah, you go first.
Meliza Manalo 05:29
I think I should go last.
Why? You're the host.
Meliza Manalo 05:31
That's why. (Laughter)
I'll go first.
Meliza Manalo 05:38
Okay, so you want me to say, my actual...like, what my actual Love language is? And then ...
Meliza Manalo 05:43
What did you think your love language was going to be?
So, given off the categories.
Oh, right. Yeah. So, let's talk about the different categories.
Meliza Manalo 05:51
So, there's five different kinds. There's 'Acts of service', 'Quality time', 'Words of affirmation', 'Physical touch', and what's the other one?
Meliza Manalo 06:02
'Receiving gifts'. So, before you took the quiz, what did you think you got? Or what do you think you would have gotten?
Well, since we can only perceive things from the lens of our own experience. (Laughter)
Meliza Manalo 06:20
No. I don't know. I hadn't even really thought about love language. I didn't even really know it was a thing until recently. And so, I learned about it, you know, and I wish I would have known sooner. I wish I would have known when I was in high school. Or like, I don't know.
Because I've always just been a super, like wanting-a-companion type of a person. Even from a young age, I had a boyfriend, Robert. We were six. (Laughter) He lived right down the street from me. We were neighbors.
Meliza Manalo 07:03
And he was my first kiss. I planted it on him. I grabbed his head and I like... went in all with crazy eyes. Just like full on.
Meliza Manalo 07:15
Yes. I've always been a romantic lover. I've always been a lover. Even with my friends., I'm very loving. And I just love you guys. Thank you, guys, so much.
So, what do you think which one was yours? Did you know before the test?
No. Because I didn't even know what love language was, you know? Like something to know about, excuse me, something to know about yourself.
Meliza Manalo 07:41
So, when you take the quiz, there's the, what is it? The couple's one, singles one and there's two other ones, I can't remember what they are.
There's one for kids. To find out what your child's love language is.
Oh, that's a good idea.
Meliza Manalo 07:59
So, which one did you take?
Meliza Manalo 08:01
The singles one.
Meliza Manalo 08:02
Meliza Manalo 08:04
Because our Miss Bailey Jane is...Oh, did you want your middle name exposed?
Sure. Bailey Jane Jorgeson babies. Don't forget it.
Meliza Manalo 08:15
Okay. Anyways. Okay. So, what did you get then?
So, umm... I actually started reading the book a while ago.
You have it?
Almost a year ago. I do. Do you want to read it?
Yeah. Can I borrow it whenever you're done?
Yeah, absolutely. I already finished it.
So, you can take it home today. But so, I read the book and even like starting the beginning of the book, I already had a very clear idea of what my love language was. And so, I read the book and made a decision for myself. But then I also took the singles quiz and then I just like, I got the same.
Meliza Manalo 08:51
Just like confirmed it.
Yeah. And that is 'Physical touch'.
Meliza Manalo 08:56
That's what I was thinking you would get. We should've...whatever too late.
Meliza Manalo 09:01
Like guessed what each other's was.
Meliza Manalo 09:05
It's all good. But that's what I thought of you again.
Meliza Manalo 09:09
Yeah. Because you're all about the hugs. Every time we see you, it's always about the hugs.
And I give good hugs too. I give those 'Bailey bear hugs'. To be quite frank, sex has just always been the number one most important thing to me in a relationship. If the sex isn't there, I can't.
I think it's a very important thing for a relationship to have good sex in there.
That's a huge, like... I don't know, satisfying thing.
Meliza Manalo 09:51
It is important for me personally. Sorry I keep touching you.
Meliza Manalo 09:56
Meliza Manalo 09:57
We're in very close quarters.
Meliza Manalo 10:00
It's okay. It's all good.
Does that gross you out?
Meliza Manalo 10:02
You would gross me out.
I know. You're a weirdo. You're a weirdo.
Yeah. I might be.
Yeah. I just like... And it's not even just about sex.
I love, like I always put my hand on someone's shoulder. That's why this whole quarantine thing has been hard for me. Because, like when I came back to work, and I saw my co-workers for the first time after almost five months, not only did I cry, but I gave every single one of them a hug.
You are very loving.
Meliza Manalo 10:35
Yeah, you are.
I'm just... That's just who I am. This isn't really a love language thing, but I guess it kind of goes in with...
Meliza Manalo 10:47
Hand in hand.
With like loyalty. Number one. Is that just like a default?
Meliza Manalo 10:54
I think so.
Meliza Manalo 10:55
Cuz if you're not loyal, then you... (Laughter) We're trying not to cuss but whatever, but it slips out. Sorry.
That's when I'm physical. I always like hit someone when I'm f*ckin laughing. (Laughter) It's hard. See, I tend to cuss when I'm comfortable. Very comfortable.
Meliza Manalo 11:16
It's hard for me right now.
I mean, I have the respect for elders. Like it will never come out. But then when I'm just my physical self and just talking, it's gonna come out.
Meliza Manalo 11:27
And honestly, I never said this outright in my podcast, but there's a little checkbox saying, 'Is this meant for kids or adults?' And I never check boxed the kids one because it's not for kids, the things I talked about. They could probably listen to some of the introvert stuff, but for the most part, it's mainly for adults. I talk about the workplace and stuff like that. So, I'm hoping no kids are listening. I think maybe Ava is listening, but Ava is pretty mature. Yeah, and she's super smart.
Hey, girl. Hey!
Meliza Manalo 11:57
Yeah, if you're listening, Hey Ava!
Meliza Manalo 12:00
Shut up. Oooh. We should have Ava on the episode.
You totally should. That would be such a good episode.
Meliza Manalo 12:08
She's super smart and articulate.
Oh, that'd be so much fun.
You have to. Yeah, you have to. Ask her if she listens.
Meliza Manalo 12:14
Or let me know Ava. (Laughter) Okay, so you read the book, and you took the quiz and then you got the, what was it? Physical touch.
What was your percent? Did you check?
I don't know. It didn't tell me a percent. It just gave me like when I took the quiz.
Meliza Manalo 12:38
Oh. Well, okay. It ranks you.
Yeah. Ranks you in all the categories.
Meliza Manalo 12:45
Yeah, you should retake it. Cuz that's how you know.
Maybe I took the different.
No, you took the right one. You probably didn't like...
Meliza Manalo 12:50
You probably didn't scroll down.
Yeah, all the way. (Laughter)
Meliza Manalo 12:55
So, we take the quiz, make sure you scroll down, and it gives you a percentage of each one. Because then 'Physical touch' is number one then you get your number two, three, four, five.
Meliza Manalo 13:07
That's like a whole, do you know yours Casey?
I missed that.
Meliza Manalo 13:09
What do you think I was?
I have a guess.
Meliza Manalo 13:15
What's your guess?
Meliza Manalo 13:17
For Casey? 'Physical touch'.
Meliza Manalo 13:19
Meliza Manalo 13:21
I'm thinking 'Words of affirmation' maybe. Or, oh 'Quality time'.
Ohhh! Look at that smile. (Laughter)
Oh my gosh, yeah, I got 37%. I was pretty much a little bit of everything. I'm actually pretty surprised about the physical touch. Because like I said, it's important but it's got ranked to my last two.
Meliza Manalo 13:44
Meliza Manalo 13:45
So, what's your ranking then?
I have 'Quality time' at 37%. I have 'Words of affirmation' and 'Acts of service' tied and then I have 'Physical touch' and then 'Receiving gifts'.
Meliza Manalo 13:55
Okay. Nice. I knew. I should've like, cuz I was just reading, and I was like which one is it?
Meliza Manalo 14:03
Yeah, quality time. That totally makes sense.
Should I read the definition for it? Or should they just do it on their own when they have their own?
I want to hear the definition.
Meliza Manalo 14:10
Yeah, you should read the definition.
So, it says "YOUR PRIMARY LOVE LANGUAGE IS: Quality time. In Quality Time, nothing says "I love you" like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Quality time also means sharing quality conversations and quality activities."
Meliza Manalo 14:43
That's pretty much all we do together.
Meliza Manalo 14:46
I have a question.
Because I feel...
Okay wait. Go ahead. No, you go.
I was saying like, quality time eventually leads up to all the other things, you know?
Meliza Manalo 14:56
Building time, bonding, you know?
Quality times build trust of words, I guess.
Meliza Manalo 15:04
What's your question?
So, my question is, because it said, 'TV is off, you're not eating'. You're basically not doing anything. you're just...
I mean, not necessarily down to the T like that, of course, you could just be doing nothing. But I mean like...
(Whispering) But doesn't that lead to sex?
Hell yeah. (Laughter)
Doesn't that lead to some... to do the mattress dance?
Meliza Manalo 15:27
That's true because we don't watch TV when we hang out.
That's what it leads me to.
But I mean not necessarily just not watching TV and just sitting there. No, like, you know quality time, like not being on your phone if I'm around you. I try my best. I'm never really distracted ever by my phone. If I'm with people, I will never be on my phone. Not saying never. I mean.
Meliza Manalo 15:49
No, but when we go out and stuff, we're never on our phone.
Meliza Manalo 15:53
Which makes sense. Because when we're on our phones, we're talking to each other.
Yeah. Exactly. Not like it has to be dead silent. And oh, this is bonding. We're not really doing anything.
Meliza Manalo 16:03
But giving each other 100% of our attention.
Meliza Manalo 16:06
I get that. Because I hate when people are on their phones, when we're hanging out. it's like it's our time right now. Use your phone later. Unless it's an emergency obviously or whatever.
Well, it's not like there's anything on social media that's like...
Like you have to see that moment.
Meliza Manalo 16:24
Cuz I'm not super obsessed with media.
That's gonna change your life.
I'm obsessed with TikTok. That's it.
I think this podcast kind of brought you out a little bit. I see a lot more posts from Mia now.
Meliza Manalo 16:34
Yeah, just because it's for the gram.
No, not necessarily.
Meliza Manalo 16:38
But not... It's just. I don't know.
For the gram? Did you put the drink just for the gram of your podcast? No, that was literally just like you.
Meliza Manalo 16:45
Oh no, that was on accident. I was supposed to visit someone but then I was like, oh what's on my story? (Laughter) It's funny. Because a few people actually reached out to me. Not just you. I was like, hmm. Should I post more so I can talk to people more?
Just whenever you feel. You don't have to feel demanded to do it. Just whenever you want to.
Meliza Manalo 17:07
Yeah. For sure.
Even when I post stuff, nobody responds or comments or anything except for you.
But they don't have to. It's just something that you want to reflect back on. Which is why again I started YouTube because I just wanted to fall back on those memories. Because I watch other people's memories.
Meliza Manalo 17:24
Like an archive.
That makes sense. Because even though I have literally thousands of videos and pictures in my phone, I never just take the time to sit and like back on this.
And they're nice to just come back. If you guys saw my 'first' first video, I didn't talk one single word.
I didn't talk one single word. I used transitions of words. And like...
Meliza Manalo 17:49
That's the main thing I noticed. Cuz I'm like...
Where's Casey? (Laughter)
Meliza Manalo 17:54
She's not talking. What's up with Casey?
It's hard to just jump right in.
Meliza Manalo 17:58
Like putting yourself, exposed to the world.
Especially in public when you're just like "Heyyy".
Yeah, in public it's pretty hard especially.
Meliza Manalo 18:08
We get used to that.
Doesn't your arm get tired?
Yeah. But I feel like if you're in huge crowds like Disneyland, it's normal.
Meliza Manalo 18:16
Because other people are doing it too.
So many people do that at Disneyland.
Like at an airport, it's kind of like, okay, everyone's looking at me. When we went to the cruise...
... it was kind of hard for me to just pull it out and be like, "Okay, I'm gonna end the vlog now. Bla bla hopping onto the plane." I had to kind of hide in the corner because I didn't want people just directly staring at me.
Meliza Manalo 18:36
Because sometimes we'll be at the restaurant and it's quiet. And there's one other family there. And Casey is like, "Okay, we're eating sushi."
Yeah. It's hard to just be out there.
Meliza Manalo 18:47
Yeah, it's definitely a lifestyle. You have to get used to it. But yeah, like what you're saying like your first YouTube channel. Because my first podcast or first episode was six minutes.
I think my video was six minutes too.
I liked it. I liked it though.
Meliza Manalo 19:05
It's completely different now. I'm definitely more comfortable with it.
I mean, to be frank, I loved it. It was just a small introduction of what's gonna be going on.
Meliza Manalo 19:13
Yeah. It's like a trailer.
Yeah. There you go.
Yeah. And baby you're the main attraction. (Laughter)
Meliza Manalo 19:22
I really wish we were video recording this. Because I feel like we're just funny.
Meliza Manalo 19:34
We could just like archive too.
Yeah, archive purposes.
Meliza Manalo 19:37
Meliza Manalo 19:38
Even if I don't become big, I know I've got more listeners.
Meliza Manalo 19:44
I want to look back at these episodes that we did together.
Oh my God. Yeah.
Meliza Manalo 19:48
That will be so much fun.
It is. That's what I'm saying. Just to retrack back. Because obviously, we can't cram every memory in there.
Meliza Manalo 19:56
Because when Mikie was recording, he had a YouTube channel, but it didn't really go anywhere.
Yeah, I remember it.
Meliza Manalo 20:04
Yeah. And they're pretty funny videos, you can go and check it out.
Well, it's takes a lot of time and energy and effort to keep up on the up-and-up. Even with social media. That stuff takes a lot of time. Especially for an introvert. Ayyy!
Seriously though. What are you Bailey? I feel like you're an extrovert.
Meliza Manalo 20:27
I feel like you're definitely on a spectrum. You're somewhere in the middle.
Meliza Manalo 20:31
Like I was telling her this morning. I think she's like an ambivert.
I mean, I think it changes with my mood. Yeah, I really feel like it does. Because I love human interaction. And that's why I really love my job. Because I get to...
Interact with people. Yeah.