S1E13 - Friend Finder Apps

Episode Description:

In this episode, I talk about two friend finder apps that I tested out: Hey Vina! and Bumble BFF. I was inspired by the Introvert Dating episode I did with my friend Mia. She was talking about the dating apps she uses, and it was so interesting. I’m married, so I’m not looking to date. Instead, I googled if there was something similar for searching for new friends. As an adult, it gets a bit harder to find new friends, especially in the current quarantine world we live in. I talk through the different apps, my experience, and some of the pros and cons I found. Please let me know if you tried the apps and what your experiences are. Feel free to reach out to me on social media or email me. If you like the episode, please share it with others and follow me on social media to stay up to date on new episodes.

Hey Vina! - https://www.heyvina.com/

Bumble BFF - https://bumble.com/bff

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Transcript:

Hey everyone! This is Meliza, and I'm The Talkative Introvert.

00:12

In this episode, I'm going to talk about a couple of Friend Finder apps that I just started using. I'll walk you through the apps, the pros, cons, and my experience so far. But before we get into that, in the last episode, I was saying I'm not going to talk about my podcast journey. But I don't know, maybe I was just being sullen or whatever. But today, I do kind of want to share what's going on. I mean not a lot has been going on. Nothing super crazy or anything like that, but I'm definitely noticing that I'm getting more followers or listeners, sorry I'm getting more listeners. And actually, followers too. Like on Instagram, I just posted that I finally reached 100 followers, which may not seem a lot to some people. But to me, that's like a lot because I don't really promote this podcast, I don't pay for any ads. It's all just word of mouth. And basically, the hashtags I use on my posts. And that's pretty much it. I don't pay anyone or anything. So, it's all like organic growth, if you will. So that's pretty crazy. But other than my Instagram followers, I've definitely gotten a lot of listeners now. It's more than doubled. I think last time, in the last episode, my podcast was kind of hitting a plateau. I don't know if I want to say that, but pretty much. But I don't know what happened. I think it's because I also listed my podcasts onto other platforms. So originally, I was only on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Google Podcasts. And then automatically when you get listed on Apple podcasts, you also get listed on Overcast, Pocket Casts, Castro and Castbox. But then I decided to put my podcast also onto Stitcher, iHeartRadio, TuneIn by Alexa, I guess is what you call it? I don't know though. Podcast Addict, Podchaser, Deezer and Listen Notes. And apparently there's a new one, Amazon Music/Audible that I can start getting listed on. So, I'll probably end up doing that too. And then I didn't do a Pandora just because I was really lazy. And you have to make up an account and all that and then get listed. But I'll do that too. Yeah, I'm just lazy to probably get into that. But ever since I did that, I saw a lot more growth. I got more listeners and regular listeners too. Because you can see your stats and see where your listeners are coming from. And they're very specific to the location and the city. And I've been getting a lot of the same people listening over and over again to all my new episodes. And they'll listen to it the first day or the second day it gets published or something like that. So, I know, they're avid listeners, which is awesome. Thank you so much for listening, by the way.

03:35

So yeah, getting listed on these different directories. I've noticed, definitely the growth. Like I said, my listeners doubled in size. And then my downloads also doubled. It's not like a whole lot, but each episode now is averaging at 30 downloads. Which again, like I said, I don't pay for ads, I don't really sponsor this, I don't share it that much. I share it on Instagram, but that's about it. I'm not going out of my way to tell the whole world like "Hey, listen to my podcast." At least not as much as expected if you wanted to really grow your podcasts. So, to me that's a lot. Just putting this out there for people to listen to. And I just want to say thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you for sharing it. Thank you for the people who did rate and review my podcasts on Apple podcast. So yeah, if you enjoy the show, even if you don't enjoy the show, I guess, please review, and rate me on Apple podcasts. And I think, I have to search that up for you guys. Because I know it's not just Apple podcasts that you can leave a review. But if you do like the podcast, please go rate, and review it and just share the love. Just let other people know about this podcast and yeah, Thank you.

05:11

Thank you. That's all I can say, I guess. Thank you. Thanks for listening. And thanks for sticking around and listening to me blab about just whatever I can think of. And you probably know what's coming up next if you've been listening. But what has made this podcast possible? That's getting listed on Buzzsprout. Buzzsprout makes it easy for any aspiring podcaster like myself. Get started and get listed on all the popular podcast platforms with their easy-to-follow instructions and numerous resources. If you're thinking about starting a podcast, I highly suggest getting hosted on Buzzsprout. New podcasters get a $20 Amazon gift card when you sign up for a paid plan. Follow the link in the description to let them know I sent you and to support the show. If you do start a podcast, please let me know. I'd love to hear all about it. And I'm being super sincere about that too. That's not just a part of the ad. Because I've actually discovered a lot of new podcasts from just starting a podcast. Because on Instagram, I do have a lot of followers who are also podcasters themselves. And I've been listening to some of them. And there's some really good content out there. Like there's definitely a whole lot of more introvert podcasts and I totally did not know that there's a whole market out there for an introvert podcast. I guess I just never really looked for it. But now I do. And it's just so interesting. Even though there's a bunch of other introvert podcasts out there, it's not really convoluted. Because it's their experience, right? It's all different just because it's coming from a different perspective. And all of us introverts are not all the same. So, it's really interesting to see or to hear from a different person's perspective, what's it like to be an introvert. And it's just been really interesting. And I've chit-chatted with some people and hopefully, maybe down the road, maybe I can get some of them as a guest on this podcast and share their content too. Because it's been really interesting listening to them. So yeah, if you do start your own podcast, please let me know. Maybe we can guest on each other's podcasts. That'd be pretty awesome. I definitely want to get more guests on. And I definitely want to hear from other people. Right now, it's just like friends and family, which is so cool. Because I love talking to them. And I've really enjoyed these episodes so far. And I have another one coming up. I have a couple actually, that I plan to do with other friends and family. And yes, you'll get to hear from them too. There's honestly just so much fun to do. So, I can't wait to do them. I have one actually scheduled for this weekend with my bestie. So that will be a fun one. I'm so excited to have her on here. I'm so excited for you guys to listen to her because she's such a great conversationalist. Anyways, so I took a little pause because Link is chewing his bone right now. And so, I wanted to listen back to see if you can hear him and you totally can. So sorry about that. But he is now in the other room. So, the rest of the episode, you shouldn't be able to hear him chewing his bone.

08:59

So, this episode was inspired by the one idea with my friend Mia. So, if you haven't listened to that, that is the introvert dating episode with my friend Mia Russell. So, in that episode, we talked about dating apps. And so, I'm no longer in the game. Haven't been for the past 13 years. I have no interest in dating apps. But it was just really fascinating. And even my friend Bailey, she's using dating apps too. And she's going through the app with me. And I just thought it was really fascinating. How it works and all that. Because I would never be on a dating app just because I'm married already. So, I don't need to be. But now I'm thinking, well how about people who just want to find friends? It's actually really difficult to find friends as an adult. Because other than your work colleagues, at least for me, we're in quarantine now, so I'm home all the time.

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But before that, majority of my time is spent with my co-workers, and people I already know. So, if I were to try to find new friends, me being an introvert that I am, it's not like I am going out all the time either. And I'm not really the one to initiate conversations. And I don't typically go to a bar or to a club or anything like that to go look for friends either. So, I was thinking it'd be kind of cool to see if there are apps to meet friends. Not just dating, but just platonic friends. And so, I googled it. And I found these two apps. So, I found Hey! VINA. And then I found Bumble. Bumble has a friend version of it. So, it's not just dating. Because in the episode I did with Mia, she talks that she uses Bumble for dating. So, you can actually use Bumble to find friends as well. And so, I just did only two apps really. Because the other ones I found, were too specific. There's one for mom friends. That's great for moms, but I'm not a mom. I'm a dog mom, but I'm pretty sure that's not what they're looking for. Then finally another one that's for gym partners. But I'm not going to the gym right now. Because they're not open, first of all. And when I go to the gym, I go by myself. I used to go with my cousin, but our schedules just didn't work out. And honestly, I like going to the gym by myself. I'm not looking for a gym partner. So, I just didn't do that one. And then there's another one that's actually really interesting, but it's only for Apple users. But I'm an Android user. And I can hear my family and some of my friends saying, "See, this is another reason why you should switch to Apple." Plain and simple. I'm never going to switch to Apple. I guess I shouldn't say never, but not going to anytime soon. It's not that don't like apple or anything. I'm not saying that Apple is a bad phone or anything like that. But it's just all about preference, to be honest. I just don't care for it. I had an Apple phone for work. And I just always preferred my android over the Apple phone. And maybe I'm just too old. I'm not that old, but I feel old sometimes. And I'm just like, I don't know how to use this. And then if I switch to Apple, I have to figure out all these new functionalities. And I'm just like, no, I like my Android. It's easy. For me, it's easy to use. I knew people who switched from Apple to Android and were just completely lost. And they're like, "How do you figure this out?" And that's exactly how I feel when I hold an Apple phone. I have no clue how to use it. So, it's different. It's all preference, honestly. I just hate the stupid Apple versus Android debacle. Because it's so dumb. It's just preference you guys. I don't know, I can't say whether one is better than the other. I think it's just what you prefer. It's like forcing me to eat carrots. And I hate carrots. I'm not saying carrots are bad or good. It's just some people like carrots. Some people don't like carrots. And in this example, I hate carrots. That's a stupid analogy. Anyways, back to the apps.

13:54

So, the first one I downloaded is 'Hey! VINA'. I hope that's right. I don't think it's pronounced 'VYNA'. Because that sounds weird. But Hey! VINA, it's like Venus, right? Because aren't women from Venus and boys are from Mars or something? Anyways, I didn't read their 'About me'. So, Hey! VINA is owned by 'Tinder', the OG swipe-left-swipe-right app. So, they made a friend app for women only though. No boys allowed. Sorry, women only. You do have to connect to your Facebook to validate your gender. Which is weird considering you can just change your gender on Facebook. But okay. Whatever works. So far, it's not like I came across a guy and even if a guy ends up on Hey! VINA, I'm pretty sure people will just swipe left anyways. So, I don't think you should try. Because what's the point? People will just not want to be your friend.

15:02

So, when you sign up for the app, they ask you preference questions. So, they ask you like, "Do you prefer coffee or wine?", "Are you a night owl or an early bird?" But what I found like really cool is that they also ask you whether you're an introvert, extrovert or ambivert. Which is awesome, because when I get to Bumble later, they don't actually ask you that. And I think that's so important to know, whether a person is an introvert, extrovert or an ambivert. And I know with my episode with Casey, she's an extrovert through and through, and I'm an introvert through and through. And we're really great friends. But it's still kind of good to know whether someone is an introvert or an extrovert. Because chances are, you're gonna be more compatible with someone with a similar personality trait as you. Right? So, they do ask your preferences, and they ask you, "What communities you belong to?" And there's a whole slew of different communities. (Plosive microphone sound) Oops, sorry, I hit my mic. I don't know if you can hear that. So, a few of the ones that I picked, dog owner, obviously. My friends do like dogs. And I think it's really important that my friends like animals. And all my friends love animals. I'm not friends with a single person who hates animals. And none of my friends hate Link. Because that's just a big no-no. You have to love animals. I'm sorry. And why wouldn't you? I don't know, that's weird. So, another one is for foodies, obviously. Well, I shouldn't say 'obviously', because you guys don't know me. At least some of you don't know me, but I do love food. And I totally love going out and trying out new food. And then another one that I belong to is 'Gamer girls'. So, the term 'Gamer girl' kinda makes me cringe a little bit. Because it's so weird. Why do you say Gamer girl? Sounds like we say, 'Gamer boys'. Unless it's your profession, it's weird to be called something being identified by your hobby, if that makes sense. So, I understand if you're called a Gamer, if that's what you do for a living. But just to be called a Gamer girl. I think the whole Gamer girl thing came about because it's not common. It's probably more common now, but it wasn't too common for a girl to like video games. And stereotypically guys like video games, not girls. So, I think that's why there's the Gamer girl community. It's just funny. Because if you like biking, I don't call you a Biker. If you're a stamp collector, I'll not call you a stamp collector. Usually, people are identified by their profession. That's another thing. That's weird, too. But that's a different subject. In this instance, it's fine to have a Gamer girl community. Because that's like what community you're in. I'm just saying in general. I cringe when someone refers to somebody as a Gamer girl, just because she likes to play video games. Yeah, that's her hobby. But that's not her identity. I don't know, it's hard to explain. So back to the communities. I'm also a part of 'Homebodies', 'Sci-Fi sisters' and 'Married'. If you don't want to be friends with married people, you don't have to be a part of that community. I don't care if you're married or not. That doesn't define who you are. So, there's different communities you can pick and choose, and you can edit them too. And then you can filter your radius. So, if you don't want to drive too far, you can shorten your radius. I can't remember what the max is. No, I'll get my phone. Whoops! The max is 100 miles. So, if you don't mind being friends with people 100 miles away, then you can totally expand your radius. I did. What did I do? I did 25 miles. I don't know how far that is from me. But I figured that's a good distance. If you're on the freeway, it's a half an hour drive.

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Anyways, if you don't mind meeting people far away and just meeting halfway then you can expand your radius. And then you can also filter by age, I believe. So, Hey! VINA is 16 to 70. I'm not gonna lie, I did filter a little bit older, I think mid-20s. I think like 25, or something like that. I've always been told that I'm an old soul. So, I don't really vibe with younger people. That sounds bad, doesn't it? But I'm not at that stage anymore. When I was in my early 20s, I was just always out or always doing something and experimenting new things. And at that age, you're still trying to figure yourself out and stuff like that. So, I'm kind of over that. I figured myself out, I think. I'm ready to be friends with someone who's already established. I don't want to say established, but someone who's not going through the whole identity search journey, whatever you want to call it. Anyways, another thing with Hey! VINA is that you take quizzes. But honestly, I hate these quizzes. These quizzes are so dumb. So, you can pick the quizzes, and you can take all of them or none of them. And they ask you questions, but the answers are images. And so, I took one quiz. And it was completely off. It was of my love languages. I know what my love language is. I've done the official quiz on the actual website. And I've actually learned about it in school and stuff. I learned about that then. When I did the love language quiz on here because it's just images, I forgot what the questions are. But it was like, "What would you want to do with your friends to celebrate?" And it's different pictures of different activities. And so, I just guessed. And I'm like, I don't know what this means! So, I just picked different pictures. I went with whatever caught my eye. And I ended up with a completely wrong love language. Because I think the answer I got was 'Gifts'. No 'Physical touch' or something like that. And if you know me, that's not my love language. I don't mind giving you a hug, but it's just not my main. That's kind of low on my list. And I'm like, That's wrong! Those quizzes are stupid. So, I just kept taking until I got the answer. The right answer. Because I just didn't get it. I don't know how much you can really rely on the quizzes. Because people might not know what their answer is. So, they're just gonna go with whatever the app tells you your answer is. So, I don't know if you can really rely on it. It was completely off, unless you know what your love languages, you might end up with just whatever the app gives you. So, I didn't really match with a whole lot of people, because there's not like a whole lot of people on there. There's not that many people. Not as much as Bumble. Bumble definitely has a lot mor. And I got a lot more matches. But I did get a couple matches on Hey! VINA. So, before I get to the Bumble app and explain a little bit of that one, I want to talk to you guys about Instacart. Instacart does the shopping for you and delivers your groceries to your doorstep. They connect you to a personal shopper who you can easily chat with online or on the mobile app. It is super easy to use and saves you on travel time and going through the store. Listeners will receive free delivery on your first order over $35. Follow the link in the description to let them know I sent you and to help support the show. Use Instacart and you'll never need to step into a grocery store again. All right, that's my last ad I promise.

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Okay, so Bumble. So, I found out that Bumble actually isn't just for dating. You can actually use it for finding friends like platonic friendships. And you can actually use it for business. I'm not gonna use it for business. I do enough networking at work. So that's totally fine. But yeah, you can actually use it for that as well. So that's pretty cool. I didn't know Bumble could do that. I only found out about Bumble because of my friends who use it. It's cool to know that they have other options. So, unlike Hey! VINA, men can also use this app. But I was reading through some bubble articles and although men can use it, they don't really use it. I guess it's a little weird. I guess it's normal for girls. I forgot what the article said honestly. But I guess it's just weird for guys to use a friend app. So, whatever you guys, come on, you can't find friends it's just that. Who cares? No judgement. So, when you use the app for the friend option, you can't match with the opposite gender. So, it's just for female-to-female and male-to-male. Even though I did stumble upon a couple of guys, maybe they just created their profile wrong and accidentally pick the wrong gender. Their setup is a little different from Hey! VINA. Instead of starting with your preferences, the questions definitely are more revolved around you. They ask your relationship status. Are you single? married? Your kid’s status? Whether you have kids or not? Do you smoke? Do you drink? Do you exercise? Do you smoke weed? Do you vote? Are you new to the area? They asked you about what pets you have. Your sign? Your religion? I thought that was pretty interesting. Those are good questions to ask. If you're now into smoking cigarettes, that could be a complete turnoff, even with your friends. Or if you want someone who's more active in your community, and votes or maybe you don't want to be with people who have kids. That's again your preferences. So, it's good to know these little details about you. You can connect your Instagram page and your Spotify. I didn't connect my Instagram page, just because my Insta is private. So, I don't know how that would work. Plus, it's private for a reason. I'm a pretty private person. I was even really skeptical to even download these apps. But I was just curious. So, you can connect your Instagram page and your Spotify. My Spotify is connected because it's just the music I like. So, there's nothing super personal or private about that. And then instead of quizzes, what I really like about Bumble is that you can answer questions instead. So, there's a whole list that you could pick from and you can pick three questions. Otherwise, if you did more, you have to pay for it. There are some limitations. If you have the paid plan, there's all kinds of other features that you could have.

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The questions that I picked, I picked the ones like, 'Do you prefer a nightclub or Netflix?', 'If I had an extra hour in the day, what would I do? And 'What am I using BFF for?' Oh, so it's called Bumble BFF. Not just Bumble. So, you could pick questions like that and provide an answer. The thing with Bumble though versus Hey! VINA is, there's definitely a bigger focus on pictures. Because on Hey! VINA, you just have your little circle profile picture. And you can't even enlarge it when I was trying to like click on it. Because there's this one chick that had a really tiny profile picture and I can't even see her. But you can't zoom in or anything. But Bumble is definitely more like, because you can link your Instagram page, so you see a little glimpse of the person's Instagram page. And then there's some profiles where it's literally just pictures only. So, it's definitely picture focused, which I'm not really big on. That's what I like about Hey! VINA. It's personality heavy.

28:47

And Bumble is all about the pictures. I'm not all about the pictures. Like my Instagram page, if I were to put that out there to link it, I only have one selfie. That's an actual selfie that I took. And the second selfie was doing that 'Black and White women's challenge' that's related to the Turkish women and women empowerment. So, I don't really count that as like a real selfie. But everything else is of Link. So, if you just want to see pictures of Link, that's pretty much all you're gonna get if I'm gonna link my Instagram page. So, my experience with both apps have been pretty interesting so far. I've met a few girls that are pretty cool. I've just started using it. I wouldn't say any of them are my friends yet, because it's still all new and it's just really interesting. There are some people that I feel like I have a good connection with so far. But I'm a pretty skeptical person and I'm pretty private. I definitely have ounces of being a restraint introvert. So, it was kind of difficult to join these apps, being partially restrained. Because it's just like doing this podcast. It's like putting myself out there. But I feel like this is more intimate. Because you're trying to figure someone out and they're asking all kinds of questions about you and your interests and your likes. At least with the podcast, I'm just talking about whatever I want to talk about. So, it's not like these questions towards me. It's definitely new. It's definitely different. It's weird, but I think it's a really good idea, especially for introverts if they want to try to find new friends. And I do love how Hey! VINA even gives you the choice to pick whether you're an introvert, extrovert or an ambivert. So, I thought that was pretty cool. But yeah, they follow the same way as Tinder. You swipe left for no, swipe right for yes. So, for me, I swiped left if your profiles were pictures only. I need more substance. I need more than just what you look like. I really need to know your personality to see if we're even gonna click. And your selfies don't tell me anything, to be honest. So, I swiped left for those. And I swiped left for anyone if their pictures are only them partying or clubbing. And that's it. That's the only pictures that they have. Because I just don't know if we're even going to click. When the quarantine is done and over with, I'm sure they're going to want to go to the clubs all the times and go barhopping. And even though I do enjoy that every once in a while, that's not my main form of entertainment. And I feel like we just wouldn't click. Because I'm not a club person. I don't even own clubbing clothes. Very few times, I did go. It was such a struggle because I didn't know what to wear. And I don't wear heels very often and really dressy clothes like that. That's not my outfit of choice. So those girls, I am sure they're nice. And I'm sure they're great people, but if the only thing you want to share is your clubbing and partying pictures, I just don't think we would click. So, I swipe left for those. And just basically anyone that just doesn't have enough info in their bio. Like I said, the pictures only ones, I need more. Because there's some people who don't answer the questions sure, but they also have really short answers. There's like not a lot of substance. And I need substance. Because I don't really care about what you look like. I care more about your personality and whether our personalities would click or not. If there's no substance, pictures only, if you're doing majority of your pictures or activities I would never do also, I just swipe left.

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So, in Hey! VINA how it was telling introvert, extrovert, ambivert, I did swipe right a lot for introverts. And my cousin Casey is an extrovert. And I love her, and I love hanging out with her. But at the same time, there's just so many extroverts in my life already that I don't need for. That sounds mean. Don't take this the wrong way, Casey, if you're listening. But I already have enough extroverts in my life. Just plain and simple, if I want to go out and party, I got a whole group of those type of people I can chill and hang out with and call last minute, if I really want to do that. So, I did focus more on people who are introverts. I just swipe right on a lot of introverts. A lot of ambiverts, too, because they kind of go both ways. And I did swipe right a lot of women who are identified as Gamer girls, are part of the Gamer girl community. And girls who like Anime. Because out of my friends, people who aren't family. Because all of my family watches Anime and plays video games. I don't know if that's an Asian thing. But my friends, a lot of them, don't play video games. Or at least not like how I play video games. I do have my one friend who plays Animal Crossing a lot. She has an amazing village. But I don't have friends who are into a lot of the same games I'm into. Animal Crossing is a good game for everybody. I think everybody enjoys it. But then if you're really into computer games, there's the whole like the 'RPGs'. And there's all these multiplayer games. I really love 'Fallout'. Mainly 'Fallout 3' and 'New Vegas'. And I like 'Fable' and 'The Witcher' is really good too. I didn't finish that though. I don't know if my husband's listening because he's gonna be like, "You didn't finish it!" But a lot of my girlfriend's don't like video games anyway. I like video games. And then a lot of my girlfriends also don't watch Anime. So, there's a lot of interests I have, that my current girlfriends don't have. So, it'd be cool to meet other people who are also interested in those other interests that I have. Not that I don't love my girlfriends. I love them to death. And honestly, I did the apps more as an experiment for the podcast. It's mainly for the podcast is why I did it. But if I was able to find really cool chicks to hang out with along the line, that's even just like a double plus for me. And I actually did meet a lot of girls that are interested in the same things I'm interested in. So far, I've gotten really good conversation. So, there's this one chick who did reach out to me and she seemed cool. All our conversations were really short. And then she just told me to follow her on Instagram. And then that was the end of our conversation. So, it wasn't very substantial. There wasn't a whole lot of meaningful conversations which, if you've been listening to my podcasts, you know that introverts typically, really love those intimate deep, one-on-one conversations. And I didn't get that from her. And it felt like she just wanted me to follow her on Instagram. I felt like she was just using the app to get more followers. So, there are gonna be some people like that who are trying to cater to you. But then really, it's just for the following. I don't know what they're trying to do.

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So, to recap, Hey! VINA is great. Its very personality focused. I do like that you can pick whether you're an introvert or an extrovert or an ambivert. I do like the little preferences. I like that they give you such a big allowance for the 'About me' section. I wrote a lot for my 'About me 'section. And I think it's a great app. However, the quizzes suck. I don't like the quizzes; I don't trust the answers that you get for the quizzes. Because it's just, like I said, they're picture focused. So, I don't understand what the answers are supposed to be. Because they're just pictures and not words. So, I don't rely on the quizzes at all. I solely look at the 'About me' section and the preferences. Another big problem with Hey! VINA is that not a lot of people use it. There's just not as many women on there. And I definitely didn't get as many matches as I did on Bumble. So, there's a lot pros and cons. I think that's one of the bigger cons just because you won't find as many people, unfortunately. And for Bumble, I think Bumble is great. I like those questions that they ask you. At the beginning like your relationship status, whether you smoke, or drink or smoke weed, that kind of stuff. I do like that. I don't like that your 'About me' is so short. Because like I said earlier, I'm all about substance, I'm all about knowing you as a person. And I don't really care about your pictures, no offense. But I just don't care about what you look like. I want to know more about you. And so that's kind of the con for me. At least for Bumble, it's very picture heavy. It's mostly the pictures, and then you have even their Instagram page linked. And you don't have to answer the questions. And you don't have to add an 'About me'. You don't even have to do those little preference or those little questionnaires that they do about the relationship status and stuff like that. So, you can actually just have a profile that's just pictures. And I don't really care for that. But what I do like about Bumble, are the questions. I like that there's a slew of questions you can answer. Because that can really give you an insight of what a person is like. Or what she's like. So, I do like the questions. And I do like the little questionnaire that they have. Oops, my phone. I don't know if you heard my phone, but I just got a match on Bumble. Haha. So yeah, Bumble. I don't like that you're limited on your 'About me'. That's very picture heavy. But I do like the questions. There are way more people on Bumble. Like way more. And I got way more matches on Bumble than I did on Hey! VINA. So honestly, I feel like if Hey! VINA and Bumble were to collaborate and create a whole new app with pros from both sides, like it would be a really great app. Because then you could be picture heavy, but also personality heavy. So, you get the best of both worlds. Because I personally like Hey! VINA more because it is about the personality. But Bumble just gives you more matches and just gives you more people. And more people use it. And I think it's a more well-known app. So, another pro for both apps, this is more for my LGBTQ+ listeners. I don't know if I have any, but if I do, they're both super supportive of that community. It's very LGBTQ+ friendly, which I think is pretty awesome. But also, I'm not gonna lie. I do live in California. So, I don't know if that's gonna be the same everywhere else. But at least in my area, in general, it's pretty friendly and very inclusive.

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So that's all I got for you guys on those two apps. It's been interesting. I've met some interesting people. If you know of any good apps, or if you tried these two apps, let me know like what you thought about it. Did you find any really meaningful relationships? Did you meet any really cool people? Are you still friends with those people? Did you meet your best friend on there? Let me know. If you like the episode, please go follow me on social media. I'm on Instagram @thetalkativeintrovertpodcast. I'm also on Facebook. Same theme 'The talkative introvert'. I also have a website thetalkativeintrovertpodcast.com. Go check it out. If you've enjoyed the show, please share it with other people. Let them know about it. And thank you so much for listening. Thank you for the support and thank you for the ratings, the reviews, the follows. Everything. Thanks guys. Alright, I will talk to you in the next episode.